Monday, March 7, 2016

Dear Haters


Boobs, breasts, fun bags, sweater puppets, chesticles, tits, bazookas, air bags, dairy pillows, hooters, knockers, jugs, melons, boobies, gazongas, sweater stretchers, wife material, speed bumps, traffic stoppers, mosquito bites, molehills, bee stings, snuggle pups, udders, double lattes, baby feeders, and the list goes on......

What do all of these words have in common? They all mean the same damn thing and all women have them.....so why do we hate on women for using them for their intended purpose?! 

I've said it before and I'll say it again, I am pro-fed babies, in whatever way is best for mom and baby, but I never realized how many people fucking hated breastfeeding until I became successful at it. We are at 9 months and stronger than ever. I have nursed in public and uncovered countless times. I've nursed at family events, school events and in my own backyard. So....

Dear Haters,

Fuck you. Fuck you for thinking that you could judge me for my choices. Fuck you for acting like what I am doing is wrong and that you are better than me. Fuck you for making me feel like shit for doing what is best for us. When did anything I do directly effect you?!

Do you know how much blood, sweat and tears has gone into this breastfeeding relationship? Do you know how many times I've wanted to give up? Do you know what it feels like to be the only person your baby wants at 2am and no other person will do? Do you know what it's like when a baby is cluster feeding for hours straight? Do you know what it feels like to feel like you are cheating your other kids because the baby is hungry? Do you know how many times I've stayed home instead of gone out with friends because my baby hates taking a bottle? Do you? No, you don't. 

I've posted several pictures of me nursing the baby before, and put it out there for the world to see, judge and criticize, because there are going to be haters in every group. But do you know why I posted them? Do you know why I made myself and my baby vulnerable? I put them out there because I am so damn proud of myself for being successful at this and staying committed! All I feel is pure love when I look at them. I posted it in hopes that maybe one mom out there would see it while crying with cracked nipples and a fussy baby and have hope that one day it will get better. Or that someone who knows someone who is nursing would see it and they would realize that it isn't taboo. I didn't post it for you. 

I hope that I've enlightened you a bit. Made you understand some more. Given you a new perspective. Something. Anything. If not, bye Felicia! 

Sincerely,
The Breastfeeding Mom That's Over The Bullshit


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21 comments:

  1. I fucking LOVE IT!

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  2. Beautifully said!! I was a nursing mother to all of my babies up until they were almost 2!! I am so proud of you! Damn right it takes commitment and courage and a determination that is almost at times unbelievable! You said what all of us nursing mothers have felt deep inside for years! Amen sister! Amen!!

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    1. Me too.....haha....even if it is REALLY unfiltered! Lol

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  4. You do you, Mama, and forget the haters!! My boss keeps getting on my ass about when I'm going to wean my baby. I just want to yell "NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS!!"

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    1. Exactly! Are these your boobs or you baby?! Nope, so shush!

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  5. Great post, I actually gave up after 6 months and for the most part blame the haters and non supporters. Being a 20yo mom at the time I was given a very tough time about my choice! Mind you that was 8.5 years ago from what I see there is much more awareness now than there was back then.

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    1. 6 months is stil AMAZING!!!! Those first 8 weeks are pure hell! I do agree it's changed a lot in recent years!

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  6. Haha. I am 14 months into breastfeeding now. I was recently told to cover up by a L&D Nurse at a hospital.... I was in complete shock. But none the less, I am strong willed and have gotten to the point to where I don't even care anymore. I bottle fed my oldest,and booby fed the youngest-which one was better? Probably neither because they both worked out fine, but the lack of support truthfully kept me from trying to breastfeed my older one. You would really think that this wouldn't even be a problem since it's natural...but of course our society wants to make it a big deal.... SMH! You hang in there momma and feed that baby!

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    1. Good for you mama! 14 months is amazing! I probably wouldn't have been very kind to the nurse! Lol

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  7. I was told I'd never be able to do it.. by my own Mother! But I breastfed my oldest for over 6 months until I went back to work and then my youngest until she was 14 months.. I could fed them anywhere and even my own husband didn't know.. I am very modest and didn't want anyone to see.. but it sure doesn't bother me to see other Moms breastfeeding. I think it's ridiculous all the people saying it's offensive!

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  8. Amen sista! Rock those knockers, lol:)

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