Wednesday, August 17, 2016

A Domesticated Daddy is a Sexy Daddy

Some husbands like to complain that once they put a ring on it or get in a long term committed relationship the sex dies off. Well with marriage and/or long term commitment, a lot of things happen. We usually have kids, work stupid hours, and still try to maintain a household.
Let me paraphrase (because I have a poor memory) Mila Kunis’ character Amy in her Bad Moms movie, “If you took care of anyone else BUT yourself, you would get SOOO many blowies! I’d give you so many it would explode!”
It’s SO true! We don’t need an additional child you has had thirty-ish years to perfect their tantrums and being waited on skills. As a wife and mother, we are pulled in a million different directions. Doctor appointments, dishes, baths, laundry, grocery shopping, school activities, date nights, planned family outings; the list could go on for miles! Snuggling up next to our sweet spouse at the end of the longest day ever (which is every day) and putting our lady bits on a platter while being sure he is well “taken care of” is really the last thing on our mind.
But you know what is hot, like makes me lick my lips, put on that lingerie I bought and never took the tags off of…….seeing my husband be all types of domesticated without asking.
In my head I’m saying this all as Ryan Gosling….
“Hey baby, I got dinner and dishes taken care of.”
“Mama, I got bath and bedtime tonight, go take the longest shower of your life.”
“Hey I got off work early and washed, dried and put away all of the laundry so you didn’t have to stress it tonight.”
“Give me your grocery list. I’ll go grab them for you and I’ll bring you home a coffee!”
And for that over the top moment, that I think would give me the biggest lady boner in the world!
“I’m taking all the kids out for the day. I’ve already packed the car, and we’ll see you at dinner time. I’m bringing home pizza. Baby you go relax or walk around Target by yourself. I got this!”
I think the hottest thing a man can say is that they “got it,” and not follow everything they try to do with 12,000 questions. Where are the wipes? Which milk does he take? What do they need to go with their lunch? What shirt goes with the black shorts? Where are the shoes? When will you be home?

Men of the world, handle it.

We love you and we love you (in that blowie type of way) even more when you take care of others instead of yourself first, because as moms, we do that all damn day. It’s nice to have a break every once in a while. Your actions will be greatly rewarded!
For the men reading this that already are professionals at this, I applaud you! May your wives praise you in all the right ways!
Hubby "handling it," yes please!

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Saturday, August 13, 2016

Adoption Defines Your Past, Not Your Present

First Birthday!
Your birthday is just around the corner, it's the fourth birthday we've celebrated with you. It doesn't seem like that monumental of a year, but it really is for you.

Something has been happening recently, you are changing. You have morphed from an unaware toddler to a curious, wondering child. We gave you your origination story when you were three, because like all superheroes, you came from somewhere different than where you are now. But it was short and simple. We didn't give you any real details or explanations, because you didn't ask for them. You didn't ask original questions that your mind wondered about or follow every answer we gave you with an additional question.

Now, now things are different.

We talk about your adoption a lot, and buddy I love that this isn't a secret you are going to stumble upon when you are 15 and rifling through our paperwork out of curiosity.

Adoption Day!
I love that you sort of have an idea about your birth mom, although I don't think you fully grasp it yet. I know you wonder about her, and ask where she sleeps; I wish I had answers for you. I can tell you that she loved you, but had her own struggles.

And your birth dad we don't talk about much, well because I'm not ready for the "where babies come from" question. He's a great guy though, but he wasn't ready to be a daddy when you were little, and he thought that we would be great parents to you. I like to believe he was right!

I chuckle when you ask questions about how daddy and I did took care of you when you were a baby. Those are the easy questions! I promise that we will always answer your questions honestly though, no matter how difficult they may be.

This is the face I see when I think of you as a baby!
But honey, I want this to be clear to you, your adoption defines your past, not your present. You didn't grow in my belly like your little brothers, and I don't have newborn pictures of you. But no other mommy is going to come and take you away to their house, I know that is something you are often afraid of in your dreams. You are ours forever and ever!

I do have a fear though, a really scary fear. I fear that when you get older and go through that "hate your parents" phase, you'll say we aren't your real parents. I cringe thinking of it. I know that it is a ways off, but with all of the changes in your questions lately, I worry it's sooner than later.

We are your mommy and daddy though. Your brothers are your brothers. Blood doesn't make family, love does, and baby we love you more than you could ever know. Remember that sweet boy. You are the smartest, funniest, and most delightful boy we could've ever been blessed with!

We are so thankful to celebrate this birthday with you, and the many more to come! We love you!


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